How to Mend Strained Relationships


Often it is quite difficult to maintain a perfect balance between your personal and professional lives. Mostly you devote your time to your professional life and the family gets less of your attention. Often your personal problems tarnish your professional life. Especially the working women find it quite difficult to keep a perfect balance between the two. These often result in a stained relationship.

Beginning of Strained Relationships

If you are a working, you rush to the office as early as possible and start off with your work. You work the whole day and are not able to answer any of your phonecalls properly, be it from your friends, relatives, spouse or children. You work the whole day and sit late as professional life becomes ever more demanding. You usually return home very late in the evening and feel completely exhausted. You, at this moment, are not at all capable to attend any social gatherings or a party. Your relatives or close friends, who were expecting you in the party, get offended. They can’t understand that most of the time you are bound to invest to your professional life. Worst of all, your very own loved ones, for whose well-being you are making all this professional effort, tend to misunderstand you.

Continually remaining Strained

A friend wants to meet you after a long time. She will be leaving the city in two or three days. But you are not able to spare time from your professional life and are not able to leave your office early. A new project is to be discussed in the office and the management needs you. All your plans are washed away and you again hurt your friend's feelings. After thousand and fourth sorry, she rings you back to talk. But you have no time, again. Often, if you are happily married, with children, you are not able to attend the first stage performance of your child when he expected you the most. This continues the strain in relationships.

Mending is not easy

When the relationships get strained, they can’t be easily mended. These relationships need time and personal healing. Generally you don’t want to strain any relationship, but it helplessly does! It is always not the time factor. Another major thing is also involved-‘understanding’. The better the level of understanding is, the healthier your relationship remains. So, to make the person feel that you care for him or her, it is not necessary you need to call and check on them all the time. Or attend all social gatherings. The person in question here might get a little disappointed when you are not able to devote a lot of your time. But they would understand that your profession also needs you which can, be at times, very demanding.

How To Mend

Now the trickiest part. How to mend?! Though initially it seems that strained relationships are difficult to mend but a little care can mend it easily. It needs your personal care, and most importantly communicating with your near and dear ones. Communicating heals most of the problem. You need to make them understand why you were not able to attend the party or the social gathering, why you didn’t call him or her on the days he/she waited for you and why were you not able to meet him/her knowing he/she is leaving the city in two or three days. You need to make them understand that they are really important to you; even you call them up or not.

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